How to Style your Wedding Party: Part II

Good morning and happy #WeddingWednesday! Today, we are continuing our 3 part series on how to properly style your wedding party by the amazing Liz Cohen with White Daisy Events.

Wedding fashion can be one of the most difficult aspects of the wedding planning process.

Within this 3 part series, I am going to talk to you about the do’s and don’ts of wedding attire, when is the best time to shop and order different fashion pieces, wedding fashion traditions, and how White Daisy Events can help make your wedding styling experience so much easier.

In Part I we talked about the do’s and don’ts of wedding attire. If you missed Part I, you can find it here.

Today, we are discussing when the best time is to shop and order different fashion pieces to help make your wedding styling experience as enjoyable and fun as possible.denver wedding planning, denver wedding photographer

When Is The Best Time To Shop

Wedding Dresses:  9-12 months before your wedding date but, most Wedding Planning Timelines will tell you that you should purchase your wedding gown about 9 months before your wedding. While I would still definitely order your wedding gown 9-12 months before your wedding date, I would not purchase your dress before you know what your venue and floral is going to look like. Having these two things figured out will help you a lot when you go to pick out your dress. This way, you will know what style of dress you are looking for to match the theme of your wedding. Do not wait more than 6 months before your wedding to purchase your dress. Many designers will then charge a rush fee to be able to manufacture and have your dress delivered in time for your wedding and still have time for alterations. Don’t be naive, you will most likely need alterations. It is very rare to not have alterations done, so do not count on having your dress fit perfectly.aspen wedding photographer, hotel jerome bridal prep, colorado mountain photographer

Grooms Attire:  Directly after you purchase your wedding gown and here’s why. Wedding Planning Timelines will often suggest to plan the Groom’s attire about 4 months before the wedding. While this is good at giving enough time for alterations,  Besides your gown, what he wears is the 2nd most important outfit. Knowing what you are wearing and what he is wearing will make picking out the bridesmaid dresses SO MUCH EASIER!

When I worked in the bridal salon one of the first questions I would ask to help brides choose the fashion for their bridesmaids was:

1) What are you wearing

2) what is your fiancé wearing.

sky hotel groom prep, sky hotel wedding photographer, aspen wedding photography, rocky mountain wedding photography, colorado mountain photographerThe brides that knew the answers to both these questions had a much easier time figuring out what their lovely ladies would wear.

Bridesmaid/Junior Bridesmaid Dresses: 5-6 months before your wedding date. Having that afternoon out with the girls to try on dresses always sounds like so much fun to majority of brides. Some brides become so excited that they have their girls gather together to go shopping up to 15 months before the wedding date, and even before the bride has picked out her wedding gown. I do not recommend this. Most bridesmaid designers will discontinue styles/colors every 6 months. They will also only give consumers 15-30 days to place their orders once a discontinue notice has been sent out. Going shopping 15 months before your wedding, you have a 50% chance of the style or color you have chosen being discontinued. So then why not just purchase 15 months ahead of time? This is also not something I would recommend as life happens. One of your bridesmaids could get pregnant, gain weight or you could even have a falling out and decide not to have her be a bridesmaid anymore. I have seen it happen. Ordering dresses 5-6 months in advance is perfect timing to receive the dresses in time for the wedding and still have time for alterations. Your ladies also have a better idea of what life just might look like 5 months before the wedding vs. 15 months before the wedding.barn wedding photography, chatfield botanic wedding photographer, southwest denver wedding photographer

On the flip side you don’t want to wait too long to order bridesmaid dresses. Not many people know that bridesmaid dresses can take up to 16 weeks to be manufactured and delivered without paying a pretty pricey rush fee. Again, ordering 5-6 months in advance eliminates the stress of rushing the dresses, saving your girls money, as well as the fear that there will not be enough time for alterations, if needed.hotel jerome aspen wedding, maroon bells wedding photographer, rocky mountain wedding photographer

Groomsmen/Junior Groomsmen:  3-4 months before your wedding date. At this point in the planning you will have figured out your wedding gown, what your fiancé is wearing, as well as the maids. It is time to dress the rest of your guys. You can either have them wear the same color as your fiancé or a different color that still compliments what he is wearing.

The most popular combinations are:

Groom: Navy – Groomsmen: Gray or Black

Groom: Black – Groomsmen: Navy or Gray

Groom: Gray – Groomsmen: Navy or Black

Groom: Suit with jacket – Groomsmen: Same suit without jacket

I strongly suggest that when picking out the Groomsmen’s attire that you take these steps:

Bring your fiancé and at least his best man with you. If his best man is not available then any groomsman will work just the same.

Go back to the same location that you purchased or rented your fiancés ensemble. This way you can pull it as a reference to compare to what you are thinking for the groomsmen. Make sure that whichever groomsmen you bring with you models the different choices. You can even ask your fiancé to put his tux/suit back on to really see what the two look like together.

Bring a sample of the bridesmaid dress and color/fabric with you if you can. Most boutiques will be able to supply you with a free swatch of the color and fabric of the dresses that your girls purchased. Some will even let you borrow their sample for a couple hours to help you in picking out your groomsmen attire. Buy these guys a round of beers – this is not exactly what they had in mind as a way to spend their afternoon so show them how thankful you are.

Following those basic steps will make this process so much easier. It will also give you the confidence not to second guess yourself later and feel you need to go back again and again.

Flower Girls/Ring Bearer: Typically 4 weeks before your wedding. It is time for the little ones. This is always one of my favorite times of styling a wedding simply because kids are just so cute! Most designers that truly understand little kids understand that they can grow just overnight. These are the designers you are going to want to purchase your flower girl and ring bearer outfits from. Lille Couture is local to the Denver area and can produce flower girl dresses and tutus in as little as 2-3 weeks. Another great designer that designs a bit more of a traditional flower girl dress is Rosebuds Fashions, they stock most of their styles in various different sizes, meaning that you can order and return if the size does not fit correctly. Their normal turn around time is 2 weeks. As for Ring Bearers I always suggest places like Men’s Wearhouse, JCPenny or even where you purchased or rented your Groom’s/Groomsmen attire from. Wherever you go and order from you want to be able to make sure that the ring bearers are there with you so they can get properly sized by a professional.

You may be wondering why I have not talked about the parents. I did not forget about them and I did do this on purpose. That will be coming next #WeddingWednesday in Part III.

Thank you for taking the time to read Part II – I know it was a long one but I promise that all the advice found in this blog will help you immensely in your wedding styling planning process.

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Liz Cohen

White Daisy Events

Thank you for taking the time to check out this week’s #WeddingWednesday. I hope you enjoyed it and found it helpful. To follow Liz along her journey of planning her own wedding check out her weekly Vlog’s on her Facebook page. She is, also, hosting a live Q & A on March 25th from 6:30p-7p on Periscope (@whitedaisyevents). Don’t miss out on getting your questions answered. RSVP here.

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